Speaking of that, Stone had the worst separation yet at school this morning. He rode happily in his stroller all the way there, but clung to my neck again and his teacher took him into class not crying but SCREAMING. I stood outside the door with my hands over my face and my soul ripping in half. I walked home feeling a condensed, abbreviated version of the experience I'd had on Tuesday - I cried, I searched my soul and wondered if I was doing the right thing, I felt comfort that he was ok. And he was fine when I went to pick him up - he told me he had played soccer with Manuel and I had a momentary flash of hope that he had made a friend... but it was just the friendly, wonderful school security guard. Sigh.
While he was at school I went grocery shopping at the farmer's market inside the old train station right by our house - it was fantastic and the prices unbelievable. We had invited our American friends over for dinner so I needed lots of veggies and meat for ginger beef, and I also picked up a big basket of bread and the most delicious Manchego cheese (Lindsay's favorite - it's hard and aged like Parmesan or Gouda). My plan had been to drop off the groceries in the fridge, do some house-cleaning and dinner prep, and then meet Nicole at a Ballet school to check it out for Lucy and Nicole's daughters. When I showed up at home I had no house key and Erik was at Cross Fit... so I was locked out with tons of groceries, no car, and no neighbors or friends nearby. I called Nicole to see if I could drop some things off in her fridge, and she said of course... but I'd never been there before and it's a long walk. At this point I wrote the following text to Erik, which he made me promise to write on the blog because he got a kick out of it. :/
"Everything is harder here. It's hard to figure out where the bus stop is, catch a new bus, watch other people in line to see how the bus fare cards work, ask other passengers in not-your-native-language where the bus stop is, lug groceries around, all the while feeling my heart ripped out because my boy is crying for me. Why did we do this?? Why did I want to give birth with no epidural?? Why did you want to run 36 miles over mountains?? Why do we continually exchange comfort for difficulty??
Learning and finding inner strength are over-rated. Living deliberately sucks - give me my minivan and Trader Joe's!"
(We have license plate covers that say "LIVE DELIBERATELY.")
This was tongue-in-cheek but I was hot, sweaty and grumpy and really truly curious about why certain types of challenges are so appealing to us. I guess it's nice that we're similar - it would be really hard if only one of us were this nuts.
Two highlights of the day: We found a Ballet school that we think will work for our girls, and then our friends came over this afternoon for a really, really REALLY fun dinner and play time. This couple is so special - smart, interesting, warm, down-to-earth, wise, and raising impressively talented, well-behaved and delightful children. I can't describe what a blessing they have been for us.
Our table was meant for this large, happy crew |
Oh how I love you! I am so happy you have someone in a similar boat over there. I think it's incredible how powerful friendship and relating to someone else are. I am praying for your family's continued adjustment (esp. little stone. I love him!)
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